MY 8TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY

On the 5th of February 2004, exactly 8 years ago, I married my wife – Puteri Nuur Khadijah Binti Megat Ramli. I was 25 (almost 25), and she was 22. Since I have been away for quite some time from blogging, let this entry about my anniversary be the first entry of 2011. Hopefully, I will be an active blogger again.

The wedding took place at the Tuan Guru Hj Musa Mosque, Bukit Marak, Kota Bharu, Kelantan. The reception was held on the next day at her parents’ – also at Bukit Marak. A month later, the reception from my side of the family was held at my aunt’s house in Beruas, Perak. It was the nomination day for the 2004 General Elections and one of my wife’s maternal uncle was nominated to stand for State Assemblyman post (which he won after the polling).

Let me tell you about our family. Both my wife and I are related. Paternally, she is my 3rd cousin as her great-grandfather and my paternal great-grandfather are brothers. Maternally, she is my 5th cousin as her maternal grandmother and my paternal grandmother are 3rd cousins. (Don’t worry, take your time to decipher the relationship. Drawing a genealogical diagram would indeed help you in understanding the relationship). In other words, we do share a lot of things in common.

It all began in Kota Lama Kiri, Kuala Kangsar, Perak. The sons of Megat Muhammad Ali Bin Megat Pendia are Megat Omar, Megat Osman, Megat Ibrahim and Megat Ismail. Megat Omar is the eldest of the four and he worked as a Sanitary Inspector and retired in 1925. Megat Osman was the Private Secretary to the British Advisor of Kelantan. (after the Bangkok Treaty of 1909, Malay Officers from the Straits Settlements and the Federated Malay States were sent to the former Siamese territories of Kelantan, Terengganu, Kedah and Perlis to serve as Government Administrators). Megat Ibrahim began his career as a Customs Officer but later resigned in 1911 to concentrate on his business. As a wealthy land-owner, he was heavily involved in the Rubber business in Perak. Lastly, the youngest of the four was Megat Ismail – an MCS Officer. If I’m not mistaken, he retired as ADO of Teluk Intan. From these four brothers, Megat Omar is my wife’s paternal great-grandfather and Megat Ibrahim is my paternal great-grandfather.

Sons of Megat Muhammad Ali Bin Megat Pendia of Kota Lama Kiri, Kuala Kangsar

From Left to Right: Megat Omar, Megat Osman (Dato' Lela Diraja), Megat Ibrahim and Megat Ismail. (Picture taken at Kota Lama Kiri, Kuala Kangsar circa 1918)

Megat Omar was married firstly to Che Bee and was blessed with 3 boys and 1 girl namely Megat Khas (later Dato’ Seri Dr Hj Megat Khas), Megat Adnan, Megat Zakaria and one Puteri (I can’t remember her actual name). When Che Bee died, Megat Omar married his relative – one Puteri Mahyam Binti Megat Yassin and was blessed with several children namely Megat Marzuki, Megat Sulaiman, Puteri Zabedah, Megat Daud, Megat Ishak, Megat Noh, Puteri Rahmah and Puteri Uteh. Later in life, Megat Omar had another wife named Sa’tiah and was blessed with one child named Megat Abdul Halim. Megat Omar’s second son – Megat Adnan, is my wife’s paternal grandfather.

The Family of Megat Omar Bin Megat Muhammad Ali

Seated (with Songkok) is Megat Omar. Standing (leftmost, carrying a child) is Megat Adnan. Picture taken circa 1946 prior to the departure of Dr Megat Khas to England for his post-graduate studies.

As for Megat Ibrahim, he was firstly married to Wan Basitah Binti Wan Muhammad Rashid (grand daughter to Toh Muda Orang Kaya Temenggong Wan Abdul Wahid Bin Temenggong Panjang Muhammad Ariff). From this union, they were blessed with 16 children. Unfortunately, only 7 survived to adulthood. Later, Megat Ibrahim was married to a woman from Jerlun named Aminah and they were blessed with 3 daughters. In the 1930s, Megat Ibrahim married a wealthy widow from Taiping named Wan Yuhanid @ Hjh Wan Mariam Binti Tengku Menteri Wan Muhammad Isa. She is the grand daughter of the Malay Mining Tycoon – Tengku Menteri Ngah Ibrahim Bin Long Jaafar of Larut. My paternal grandfather and maternal grandmother are the children of Megat Ibrahim from his marriage with Wan Basitah. (There you go, my parents are first cousins!)

Children of Megat Ibrahim Bin Megat Muhammad Ali

From Left: Megat Shamsudin (my paternal grandfather), Megat Abdullah, Puteri Hawa (wife to Dr Megat Khas), Puteri Habibah, Puteri Apza, Puteri Hamsiah (my maternal grandmother) and Puteri Uteh Amriah. (Picture taken at Kota Lama Kiri, Kuala Kangsar circa 1930)

When I got married, both my wife and I were working in Terengganu. So, during one of the trips from Perak to Terengganu, my late father-in-law saw one of the family pictures that I brought in my car and he commented – “This is my father!”. The picture he was referring to was during the wedding of my grandfather (Megat Shamsudin Bin Megat Ibrahim) and in that picture, Megat Adnan Bin Megat Omar (my wife’s grandfather) was the best-man at the wedding! Some 70 years later, their grandchildren became husband and wife.

Wedding of Megat Shamsudin Bin Megat Ibrahim

From Left: Megat Adnan Bin Megat Omar (my wife's paternal grandfather), Megat Shamsudin Bin Megat Ibrahim (my paternal grandfather), Puteri Aishah Binti Megat Ismail (my father's step-mother), Puteri Raba'ayah Binti Megat Md Isa (sister to Orang Kaya Besar Megat Yunus) and Puteri Khasiah Binti Megat Ismail (younger sister to the bride)

My Wife's Parents

My Wife's Parents - Megat Ramli Bin Megat Adnan and Zawnah Binti Hj Musa.

My Parents

My Parents - Megat Zaharuddin Bin Megat Shamsudin and Wan Mariam Binti Toh Rakna Sakti Wan Nurizan. (Picture taken at Istana Iskandariah on 1 April 1978 during the 'Menjunjung Duli' ceremony of my maternal grandfather - Toh Rakna Sakti Wan Nurizan Bin Toh Paduka Raja Hj Wan Jaafar.

Our Wedding Day - 5th February 2004

Our Wedding Day (5th February 2004) with our 4 grannies. Left to Right: Puteri Hamsiah Binti Megat Ibrahim (my maternal grandmother), Nik Fatimah Zaharah Binti Wan Omar (my paternal grandmother), the groom, the bride, Che Bidah Binti Awang Kechik (my wife's maternal grandmother) and Zaharah (my wife's paternal grandmother). As mentioned earlier in this article, both my paternal grandmother and my wife's maternal grandmother are 3rd cousins (the ones seated in this picture)

As at today, we are blessed with two children – Megat Idris Naquiyuddin (born 12 April 2007 and Puteri Mariam Sophia (born 11 February 2009). May Allah Bless our marriage and let it be an ever-lasting relationship. ‘Hanya Cangkul dan Tanah Memisahkan Kita’. Happy Anniversary to my dear wife – Puteri Nuur Khadijah Binti Megat Ramli.

My Family

My Family - From Top Left (Clockwise): Megat Iskandar Bin Megat Zaharuddin, Puteri Nuur Khadijah Binti Megat Ramli, Puteri Mariam Sophia Binti Megat Iskandar and Megat Idris Naquiyuddin Bin Megat Iskandar

About Megat Iskandar At-Terawis

Born 18 February 1979. Received primary education at King Edward VII School, Taiping, Perak and continued his secondary education at Sekolah Tuanku Abdul Rahman (STAR), Ipoh, Perak (1992-1996). He was awarded a scholarship by the Public Service Department to further his studies in the United Kingdom. Completed his A-Levels at Brooke House College, Market Harborough, Leicestershire, United Kindom in 1999 and gained entry to the University of Kent at Canterbury, United Kingdom. Graduated with a Joint Honours Degree in Computing and Accounting & Finance in 2002. He later pursued his post-graduate studies at the School of Oriental and African Studies (SOAS), University of London in 2003 specialising in Malay Aristocratic Genealogy. Former Chairman of the United Kingdom Executive Council for Malaysian Students (UKEC) from 2001-2003. He was a banker by profession – specialising in Cash Management & Islamic Finance. He is now heading the corporate affairs of a technology company based in Putrajaya. An appointed member of the Community Representative Council for Putrajaya (MPPWP Sub-Zone H) by the Minister of Federal Territories. He is also an elected member of the Executive Committee for Persatuan Darul Ridzuan, heading its Heritage Bureau. He is also the founder and currently serving as Secretary of the Persatuan Keturunan Megat Terawis Malaysia (The Megat Terawis Clan Association of Malaysia). A Grade 8 holder in Pianoforte, he is an active musician, composer and arranger. He married his 3rd cousin – Puteri Nuur Khadijah Binti Megat Ramli in 2004 and was blessed with two children – Megat Idris Naquiyuddin and Puteri Mariam Sophia.
This entry was posted in [1] My Life. Bookmark the permalink.

6 Responses to MY 8TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY

  1. mrs. bubu says:

    happy wedding anniversarry, hun!

  2. Shima says:

    Congrats yerrr semoga berbahagia selalu ke akhir hayat…

  3. shikin says:

    Just read this article when one of my 3rd cousin (i think so..) share a link…what a nice photos you have here and the ‘susur galur’ was explained very well. Since i ve just read these hope you will write more on your next wedding anniversary soon in Feb 2012. Well..Putei Nuur Khadijah you were very lucky and i pray that your family lives in a good health and blessed by Allah S.W.T. Insyaallah. – from cucu cicit megat ibrahim and aminah shafie

  4. Farida Megat Khas says:

    Happy very-much belated 8th Wedding Anniversary. A very happy soon-to-come 9th anniversary.
    Megat Adnan was my uncle. Enda Ee.

  5. Eyda Salleh says:

    salam persaudaraan kpde megat iskandar…
    saya dri kturunan megat terawis tpy belah ibu sye..
    ibu bernama Puteri Wahidah bte Megat Wahidin bin Megat Ibrahim bin Megat Yasin… smge kte dpt memanjngkn lgi salasilah keturunan dn silaturahim..
    Megat Wahidin berkahwin dgn Puteh Ramlah bte Yeop Ahmad, Bonda dilahirkn dikota lama kiri Kuala Kangsar… moyang sye bername Che Ah bte Osman ibu kpde opah sye yg berkahwin dgn Yeop Ahmad… Moyang sblh atuk sye Nandak Hadidah bte Alang Senin berkahwin dgn Megat Ibrahim… bonda sye mempunyai 8 adk beradik, yg pertama Megat Abdul Rahsid bin Megat Wahidin, yg kedua Puteri Halimatun Sa’adiah bte Megat Wahidin, yg ketiga Puteri Noor Aziyah bte Megat Wahidin, bonda sye ank yg kelima Puteri Wahidah bte Megat Wahidin, yg keenam pula Puteri Zatul Akmam bte Megat Wahidin.. yg ketujuh Megat Muhammad Kamal bin Megat Wahidin, yg kelapan Megat Muhammad Azman bin Megat Wahidin.. bonda sye Puteri Wahidah bte Megat Wahidin berkahwin dh ayahnda sye Md Salleh bin Hj Abdul Hamid… kami mempunyai 6 adik beradik, pertama Tun Kamal Bahrein bin Md Salleh, kedua Tun Noor Afza bte Md Salleh, ketiga Tun Mohd Hafiz bin Md Salleh, keempat Tun Mohd Syahrel bin Md Salleh, Kelima sye Tun Noor Syuhaida bte Md Salleh, keenam Tun Mohd Hasif.. kini kami sekeluarga menetap di Johor Bahru..

  6. Umaimah Mahmud says:

    Salam Everybody,

    Another cucu of megat khas and putri hawa here. Wonderful article Yoep Iskandar and I agreed with Shikin, the susur galur : amazingly described. Now I understand how the relationship link to each other. Setahu I Megat Osman(my moyang ) handsome orangnye tapi dalam gambo ni tak . Now I know how Megat Omar (moyang I lagi- he he )looks like. Thank you .

    May your marriage last forever…… Amin

    To my dearest aunty, Ende Ee : We all love you……

    Best regards

    Um

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s