On the 5th of February 2004, exactly 8 years ago, I married my wife – Puteri Nuur Khadijah Binti Megat Ramli. I was 25 (almost 25), and she was 22. Since I have been away for quite some time from blogging, let this entry about my anniversary be the first entry of 2011. Hopefully, I will be an active blogger again.
The wedding took place at the Tuan Guru Hj Musa Mosque, Bukit Marak, Kota Bharu, Kelantan. The reception was held on the next day at her parents’ – also at Bukit Marak. A month later, the reception from my side of the family was held at my aunt’s house in Beruas, Perak. It was the nomination day for the 2004 General Elections and one of my wife’s maternal uncle was nominated to stand for State Assemblyman post (which he won after the polling).
Let me tell you about our family. Both my wife and I are related. Paternally, she is my 3rd cousin as her great-grandfather and my paternal great-grandfather are brothers. Maternally, she is my 5th cousin as her maternal grandmother and my paternal grandmother are 3rd cousins. (Don’t worry, take your time to decipher the relationship. Drawing a genealogical diagram would indeed help you in understanding the relationship). In other words, we do share a lot of things in common.
It all began in Kota Lama Kiri, Kuala Kangsar, Perak. The sons of Megat Muhammad Ali Bin Megat Pendia are Megat Omar, Megat Osman, Megat Ibrahim and Megat Ismail. Megat Omar is the eldest of the four and he worked as a Sanitary Inspector and retired in 1925. Megat Osman was the Private Secretary to the British Advisor of Kelantan. (after the Bangkok Treaty of 1909, Malay Officers from the Straits Settlements and the Federated Malay States were sent to the former Siamese territories of Kelantan, Terengganu, Kedah and Perlis to serve as Government Administrators). Megat Ibrahim began his career as a Customs Officer but later resigned in 1911 to concentrate on his business. As a wealthy land-owner, he was heavily involved in the Rubber business in Perak. Lastly, the youngest of the four was Megat Ismail – an MCS Officer. If I’m not mistaken, he retired as ADO of Teluk Intan. From these four brothers, Megat Omar is my wife’s paternal great-grandfather and Megat Ibrahim is my paternal great-grandfather.
Megat Omar was married firstly to Che Bee and was blessed with 3 boys and 1 girl namely Megat Khas (later Dato’ Seri Dr Hj Megat Khas), Megat Adnan, Megat Zakaria and one Puteri (I can’t remember her actual name). When Che Bee died, Megat Omar married his relative – one Puteri Mahyam Binti Megat Yassin and was blessed with several children namely Megat Marzuki, Megat Sulaiman, Puteri Zabedah, Megat Daud, Megat Ishak, Megat Noh, Puteri Rahmah and Puteri Uteh. Later in life, Megat Omar had another wife named Sa’tiah and was blessed with one child named Megat Abdul Halim. Megat Omar’s second son – Megat Adnan, is my wife’s paternal grandfather.
As for Megat Ibrahim, he was firstly married to Wan Basitah Binti Wan Muhammad Rashid (grand daughter to Toh Muda Orang Kaya Temenggong Wan Abdul Wahid Bin Temenggong Panjang Muhammad Ariff). From this union, they were blessed with 16 children. Unfortunately, only 7 survived to adulthood. Later, Megat Ibrahim was married to a woman from Jerlun named Aminah and they were blessed with 3 daughters. In the 1930s, Megat Ibrahim married a wealthy widow from Taiping named Wan Yuhanid @ Hjh Wan Mariam Binti Tengku Menteri Wan Muhammad Isa. She is the grand daughter of the Malay Mining Tycoon – Tengku Menteri Ngah Ibrahim Bin Long Jaafar of Larut. My paternal grandfather and maternal grandmother are the children of Megat Ibrahim from his marriage with Wan Basitah. (There you go, my parents are first cousins!)
When I got married, both my wife and I were working in Terengganu. So, during one of the trips from Perak to Terengganu, my late father-in-law saw one of the family pictures that I brought in my car and he commented – “This is my father!”. The picture he was referring to was during the wedding of my grandfather (Megat Shamsudin Bin Megat Ibrahim) and in that picture, Megat Adnan Bin Megat Omar (my wife’s grandfather) was the best-man at the wedding! Some 70 years later, their grandchildren became husband and wife.
As at today, we are blessed with two children – Megat Idris Naquiyuddin (born 12 April 2007 and Puteri Mariam Sophia (born 11 February 2009). May Allah Bless our marriage and let it be an ever-lasting relationship. ‘Hanya Cangkul dan Tanah Memisahkan Kita’. Happy Anniversary to my dear wife – Puteri Nuur Khadijah Binti Megat Ramli.